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Unlucky in Love? Hurt Too Much (or Too Often)?

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There is an adage that says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting to get a different result.

For many of us, we do just that with our love lives. For most of us, that hasn't led to the magic of a happy ending yet.

Are you tired of feeling used, abused, neglected? Feeling forgotten? Undervalued? Unloved? Maybe it's time to make a change.

The Sexuality Contract is a contract that you make, with yourself, to define a set of boundaries or values that can help you keep from making the same mistakes again and again. But, you have to decide to love your self enough to take things slowly. It really is true: the best things are worth waiting for. And, with luck and a commitment to your self, you may find that the one that you're waiting for is willing to wait, and is also waiting for you.

These five tenets can enable you to redefine your commitment so that you are inviting only healthy relationships into your life:

While kissing is exempt from your contract, you might still want to handle this issue with care.

There are several other addenda that you may decide to include in your contract with your self, so as maintain and expect that any relationship that you are considering is both healthy and likely to meet your needs.

Along the way of exploring this contract, there are several books that you might wish to read plus some advice and ideas for you to ponder. To lighten the subject, or to display that there is truth in fiction, I have included several quips and quotes in the content. If you have found other quotes that have helped you or that you might think will help others, please feel free to drop me a line!


Sexuality Contract
Darbie Marlin
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Make a Contract with Your Self: stop the pain, stop the madness

Make a Contract with Your Self!